It is a general belief, that a woman who opts to have a cesarean is skipping out on the hard work of labour and giving birth. Amusing fact, many people still believe that she did not give birth at all. If a woman can become pregnant, then she is also able to give birth without medical intervention. Sure, it is a scientific fact. 

Although, this surgical procedure is performed and recommended when vaginal childbirth is not possible or safe. Happen when the health of the mother or the baby is in danger. Sure some women opt to have cesarean sections consciously to dodge the normal birthing process. Because of this, some believe you have not given birth if you have opted to have a C- Section rather than destroy your vagina by pushing a baby through it during childbirth. 

Maybe it was for medical risk or personal reasons, it sure is a women’s choice to make. I had a C-Section because my baby was at risk, and here are my 10 reasons why Cesarean was not a cakewalk.

1. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TAKING THE SIMPLE ROUTE OUT

Easy?! There is no such thing called; the "easy, effortless, painless, or uncomplicated" approach to delivering a human baby from within a body. Bringing a new life into the world is never a leisurely task. Even though giving birth is a natural procedure for our bodies, it is never an easy experience and affair." I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

2. POSTPARTUM STILL PLAGUE US JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE

After having a C-section, I experienced the same amount of blood loss, the same baby blues, the same lack of sleep, the same fears, and the same problems as any other mother who gave birth vaginally. How my daughter emerged from me did not alter those feelings or the hardships that followed. Because she was delivered eight weeks earlier than expected, I cried incessantly for the first eight weeks after she was born. I used to have to get up to feed a cranky baby every hour. When I was worried about her safety, I would always Google everything she did. In the beginning, I had to rely on either formula milk or breast pumps to extract whatever breast milk was available; thankfully, for around six months, her requirements were met by the natural flow of my milk. How she came into this world has nothing to do with how much I am her mother.

3. C-SECTIONS ARE PERFORMED TO PROTECT MOM & BABY

There must be some complications in the pregnancy; for example, in my situation, my blood pressure was on the higher side. I was under observation for more than two weeks, and the doctor had to plan the delivery to save my baby. When my doctor began to tell me just some of the catastrophic consequences of the few vaginal deliveries that go wrong, I broke into tears just thinking of the danger we were in. The majority of C-section deliveries are done to save the baby and the mother; there must be some complications in the birth. C-sections are frequently carried out to assist in helping to achieve the best possible outcome; they can save the lives of both the mother and the baby, and some women are unable to deliver their babies in any other way. This is the truth. 

4. RECOVERY'S EARLY STAGES ARE MISERY FILLED 

One to two weeks after the birth, it feels like everything inside of you is torn apart. This suffering can frequently make you feel like crying, wailing, and sad. When you combine this with the uterine cramps that come with nursing, you will have agony in the same region. It's not a lot of fun. The recovery process following a C-section varies from patient to patient. If the nerves are cut during a C-section, the patient will experience a loss of feeling after the procedure. Recovery is made more difficult when there is not sufficient time to heal. I have no idea what it's like to get back to normal after giving birth vaginally. I am in no way trying to minimize the progress that has been made in recovering from that. No matter what method you choose for giving birth, the fact that you are expelling another human being from your body will make it challenging for you to recover. 

5. MOMS ARE IN CONSIDERABLY GREATER DANGER AFTER C-SECTION

It can potentially lead to complications during the process and in the future, choosing to have your child delivered through C-section is not an easy method. According to a report in the journal CMAJ, women who had C-sections were 80 percent more likely to have difficulties than those who delivered vaginally, and women, in general, are likely to have severe difficulties. And especially women over age 35 who had C-sections were almost three times more likely to have severe complications. It is true it saves the life of mother and child. Although, harrowing complications can occur in the mother during or soon after the delivery. If you have a C-section instead of vaginal birth, you are more likely to have problems like deep vein thrombosis, bleeding, or an infection. I am not trying to scare you off, just sharing the facts.

6. BEING A MOTHER ISN'T DETERMINED BY HOW YOU GIVE BIRTH

The act of physically giving birth is merely the first step in the long and winding road that is parenthood. It is not only disrespectful but also wholly incorrect to suggest that a woman who chooses to have a cesarean section is not a "genuine" mother. A woman is considered a "true mom" if she makes the conscious decision to love and care for her child, regardless of how the child entered the world: vaginally, via C-section, via a surrogate, or by adoption. It is not how a woman gives birth to her child that defines her as a real mother; rather, it is the presence of a child in her arms.

7. YOU MIGHT EXPERIENCE AN ORGAN LOSS

I felt may be I am suffering from "Empty Womb Syndrome." After my baby was born, I had a genuine fear that the medical team had forgotten to put something back in. My feeling.

8. HEALTHCARE PROFESSIONALS ARE SKILLED 

The use of C-sections is on the rise, and your healthcare professionals, doctors, and nurses are trained, skilled, masterful, and proficient in this procedure. One of the most difficult aspects of being a mother is learning to let go of one's grip on control. At least, that is how it has been for me: not only is it difficult to control when they join the world, but it is also difficult to regulate how they go about doing so. Believe that you are in skilled, knowledgeable, and compassionate hands with your doctors and nurses, since they have most undoubtedly assisted in the delivery of dozens of babies via cesarean section. The health and happiness of both mother and child should be everyone's top prerogative. Understand that they will do all in their ability to make your birth as comfortable and safe as is humanly possible. Make sure to ask all your doubts and raise with them your concerns. Talk to them. Make yourself sure about your healthcare professional and knowledgeable about your rights and check if your rights as a patient are being infringed or that you are being mistreated in some other way.

9. TWO WAYS

Babies can enter this earth in one of two ways: vaginal birth or a surgical delivery by cesarean section. A woman can decide to have a C-section if she has overwhelming anxiety about vaginal birth. It is possible. One hard truth is women who have had C-sections are less likely to suffer from urinary incontinence and pelvic organ prolapse. C- Section can be scheduled in advance, making it more convenient and predictable than a vaginal birth and labor. TRUTH. If the baby or mother is in danger, a C-section can be lifesaving. 

10. THE EXPERIENCE

Feelings & Emotions are high from the beginning to the end of a pregnancy. My plan did not include having a cesarean AKA C-section. My baby was at risk and, I would do anything to bring my baby into this world. Lucky for me, everything went with ease with the procedure. It was a great comfort to both myself and my baby during a time when we could have experienced some anxiety, stress, and tension. Ultimately your birth plan should always result in a healthy and happy baby and a healthy, satisfied and wholesome mother. You will learn to embrace the scar that was the result of this one-of-a-kind and glorious moment we become a mother. Also embrace the fact that no matter what anyone say, how you bring your baby into your life is no one else's business. Be it a personal choice or due to the fact that medical requirement becomes a part of your life, it will not detract in any way from your experience.

Finally, let me just say, the subject as a whole is straightforward agonizing. I have the impression that the entire argument is quite callous to the agony that we had to go through just to ensure the safety of our children’s entrance into the world. For some it is personal preference and for some of us for us it was a must. Life was in danger. In either way, should we be passing judgment on the birthing and even parenting choices of other mothers? In the end, I think it’s important for all of us, as mother’s to encourage and uplift one another in the choices we make. This job of motherhood is hard enough as it is, so let’s not debate who had the “better” or “right” birth approach.

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