Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. Humans are born to feel emotions, and falling in love has a very different and powerful grasp over all the various sensations you experience in a lifetime. For some weird reason, love is such an emotion where there is hurt and pain together. That teenage love, school crush, and college romance would have all given you feelings and emotions that are beyond explanation. What if I tell you that these feelings grow inside you for not another person but for yourself? You love someone else for yourself more than the partner you choose to be with, and not many people have thought about this. Falling in love is a personal experience – you do it for all the right reasons – to feel the need to be taken care of, heal scars, experience a new feeling, and feel protected and pampered. 

The love you show another person is more of a reflection of how you want to be loved. Love is immeasurable. It is an emotion that can grow strong or fade with time. And it is entirely natural. People do not realize that falling out of love is as valid a feeling as falling in love. This has nothing to do with the partner, whether a man or a woman, but the expectations of how YOU want to continue with the partner. If YOU feel that the relationship is not giving YOU the right vibes, you end it. If YOU think that the love you offer gives you happiness and satisfaction, YOU continue the relationship. It was considered rude and perhaps wrong to be selfish in love earlier, leading to relationships lasting longer than they do today. People were made to feel guilty (especially women) and even to feel the need to be selfish in committed relationships.  

Times have changed, and life is a hustle daily. Relationships have evolved. How people perceive relationships and commitments is way different than what it was years before. Humans have not rooted anymore. It has drastically changed how society views the whole scene, too – divorcees are not looked down on anymore, for starters. LGBTQ+ communities are accepted more widely today. Single parents exist. 

People fall out of love too quickly these days, and in some way, why not? Why are people told to stick on for the sake of family, children, and other commitments that are not bigger than individual lives and feelings? Yes, what can be fixed must be fixed but what if not? To understand this concept better and avoid jumping to conclusions, they must know what it is to love themselves first. Self-love allows you to see things that people often ignore. Self-love aids in making choices that may seem unrealistic to many, but maybe that is what you want, and only you know what you want! 

Be where your heart is at peace – even if you don’t have a partner. I feel falling in love, getting married, and having kids have all been so hyped up lately. So many people are just doing things for the sake of it and end up breaking each other’s hearts. It’s time we re-train our mind to love ourselves first. Self-love lays the footing for wholesome connections with others. When we have a positive relationship with ourselves, we are better prepared to have positive relationships with others. 

Self-Love makes loving others easier! How?

1. Improved Self-Esteem
   When we love ourselves, we feel good about who we are and what we bring to the table. It helps boost our self-esteem, making it easier for us to value and appreciate others.
   
   
2. Better Boundaries
   When we love ourselves, we are more likely to set and maintain healthy boundaries, which can help prevent us from becoming entangled in unhealthy relationships.
   
   
3. Greater Empathy
   When we have a strong sense of self, we can better understand and connect with the experiences of others, making it easier to love and support them.
   
   
4. Reduced Judgment
   Self-love can help us be less critical of ourselves and, in turn, be less judgmental of others. This can make it easier to approach relationships with an open heart and mind.
   

Fall in love, be in love, and grow in love; love is what each one needs, but don’t destroy yourself in or for love – it is not worth it. Love is complete only when you know yourself fully. Self-love is meaningful because it lets us have a healthy and positive relationship with ourselves, making it easier to have positive and healthy relationships with others. Only when you love yourself wholly and entirely can you love someone else. So stay true to your love for yourself to love others and to find true love in others. 

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