We live in a strange world, may I dare to say! Sadly, people still believe that women are responsible for their safety in this society. Recent news on a security guard raping and murdering a young 18-year-old hosteller in a city like Mumbai has shaken me so much that it urged me to write about it. I am not a reporter or a journalist to write news here; rather an adult woman who is petrified and sickened with such instances constantly occurring in a democratic, free nation like India! 

Instead of warning and taking strict actions against the “security” of the hostel, the typical mentality of the hostel warden made her restrict the girls even more. From barring them from going out at night to reducing the ‘in-time’ for the girls, all actions were taken against them to “protect” them. How is it even fair? Someone else is misusing their position and behaving horribly, yet no one says a word – until it’s too late! Are girls responsible for their own safety, or are they free enough to survive in this so-called “man’s world” fearlessly? The concern here is, how long will we allow this to happen? How long will we hold the victim responsible for someone else’s hideous actions? Is there a time we change how we perceive the whole scenario? Ponder so that we can make a difference! 

This is just one instance where – there are many more girl children wearing frocks and women wearing burkas and sarees being raped and molested in our country and the world. Women are not safe anywhere – WHY is the question? 

Is it better to be safe than sorry or create a world where one need not worry about being “safe”? Is it better to deprive women of their freedom or allow them to shine bright and live without fear of dark streets? Honestly, it is always better to acknowledge the real issue and hold the person violating the basic human right of feeling simply ‘human’! Women are no different than men, and they need not fear for their safety. May we someday make this world a much better place for women! Amen to that! 

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Aakanksha Dinah, a passionate writer, orator, communicator focused on establishing a Training institution centered on creativity and innovation. Aakanksha is a true believer in loving the work we do and strongly believes in smart-work, the reason why creativity works better for her. Aakanksha is enormously focused on making a career in professional writing and publishing. She loves writing poems, self-help articles, and essays. An enthusiast when it comes to learning languages and in short, Aakanksha is a wanderer, an explorer, a mom, a dog-mom, a poet, a cook, a writer, and an influencer.

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Children are a reflection of who we are. Our responsibility is to care for them and instill in them goodness and great values. Children learn from us how to handle situations, how to react to circumstances, and how to balance their emotions. Therefore, it is our duty to show them what the new world needs – good people with pure intentions and good behaviour. Kids are born innocent – life circumstances mold them. As parents, we ought to show them how to survive in this wonderful world with love and respect.

To begin with, useful qualities are better shown through actions than a million words spoken. Through our constant influence through our actions and lifestyle, they learn what it is to be in a healthy environment. Showing them mutual respect and basic life intricacies through our actions enables them to be better adults in the future.
Portraying acts of affection and love is healthy for children. Kids learn from their parents how to love and be understanding in a relationship. Constantly fighting and arguing in front of them lead them to think that this is how they resolve conflicts.

Instead, showing them healthy ways of communicating and solving a situation maturely encourages them to live and find solutions more sensibly and reasonably. Other things we can practice at home are sitting together for meals, talking things out peacefully, resolving family issues calmly in the house, handling finances carefully, being inclusive in all aspects of life with all family members, respecting elders, using love languages that are meaningful and respectful and influencing them with kindness, positivity, and empathy.

Another essential aspect of raising a healthy generation is to focus on them rather than fulfilling personal interests through them. For instance, if we force them to perceive a course or education they once wanted to do, which is not in their interest, it is healthier to let them decide what they want to do with their lives. Of course, as parents, we must guide them and show them the consequences of their actions: however, not forcing them or influencing them too much will allow them to rationalize and logically make decisions.

Our future is in our hands. Our future lies in the lives of our children. Our legacy lives on through them – let us hence raise a healthy and mentally stable world.

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Aakanksha Dinah, a passionate writer, orator, communicator focused on establishing a Training institution centered on creativity and innovation. Aakanksha is a true believer in loving the work we do and strongly believes in smart-work, the reason why creativity works better for her. Aakanksha is enormously focused on making a career in professional writing and publishing. She loves writing poems, self-help articles, and essays. An enthusiast when it comes to learning languages and in short, Aakanksha is a wanderer, an explorer, a mom, a dog-mom, a poet, a cook, a writer, and an influencer.

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Strong rooted beliefs and customs of adorning a woman with pearls, rubies, diamonds, and gold have lost their most valuable essence of how she should be treated. People are taken for granted in this fast-paced world, and women are most often trampled and crippled when she reaches where she wishes to be. She is beaten up and judged for believing in herself, questioned for questioning, silenced for dreaming, and shattered into a million pieces before she can get up straight.

This is a world of hypocrites who know nothing about the depth of what each gender means. Gender is not a barricade that separates humans from their higher purpose and place in the world. It is instead just positioning that purpose and physically reasoning the responsibilities of each. A man’s goal is different from that of a woman’s. For this mere difference, the world is running extremely slow, walking on eggshells when it comes to progressing in terms of evolution.

After years of being pushed down to being submissive, women are rightfully moving forward and pushing boundaries today. This is more challenging than it may seem. Women face inequality in every walk of their lives. However, reality check comes when there is no need for women to find it challenging to survive in this world because it is not a man’s world alone. It is just a norm so conveniently created by people years back to ensure equality regarding simple survival. Men are physically stronger than women (in most cases), which makes them the better choice to go outside and bring “food.” To get this straight, we must consider how things were centuries ago. Humans had to hunt for food and survive – like any other animal. Females were responsible for caring for their young, while the males were to bring home the hunted prey. As time passed, the same norm was carried forward. Men did most of the work that required physical strain, while women looked after their children and made a home. Now humans do not need to hunt for food or follow animalistic rituals for survival. Times have changed, and people have evolved. Jobs have changed, and the mode of survival has become modern. While everything has modernized, the crux of gender bias has not!

You need to keep her in her true spirit by showing her some affection, giving her space, and encouraging her to do what her heart desires. All the sacrifices she’s expected to make, all the chores she’s “entitled” to do only because of her gender, are honestly reversible if all people realize that times have changed and the world needs more effort from each gender equally. This is for the smooth survival of the entire species and not just a specific gender. Gone are the days when women wanted jewels and handed down privileges. Women wish for opportunities; they want justice and fair treatment. They want their efforts to be appreciated. They want to be seen for their values and heard for their wisdom. They do not want to be held down or kept submissive. They want to fly and do not wish to seek permission to do so. They want to live on their terms and not be judged for being themselves – wholly and naturally.

Women are more than just homemakers, teachers, wives, sisters, nurses, nannies, and caretakers. They are fighters who do not want their male colleagues to think they can’t fight on the border. They are actors who do not want their male co-actors to take the limelight. They are professionals who do not wish to be paid less than their male colleagues. They are survivors who do not want to listen to how they have it all so easy when it honestly is not!

Women do not get anything quickly. From bleeding continuously every month to surviving childbirth, keeping up with stomach cramps, having constant mood swings and hormonal imbalances, to being wholly frustrated for no reason – women deal with many physical, mental, and psychological changes that men cannot even fathom. Therefore, kudos to being women and kudos to those men who try and make it a little easy for them.

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Aakanksha Dinah, a passionate writer, orator, communicator focused on establishing a Training institution centered on creativity and innovation. Aakanksha is a true believer in loving the work we do and strongly believes in smart-work, the reason why creativity works better for her. Aakanksha is enormously focused on making a career in professional writing and publishing. She loves writing poems, self-help articles, and essays. An enthusiast when it comes to learning languages and in short, Aakanksha is a wanderer, an explorer, a mom, a dog-mom, a poet, a cook, a writer, and an influencer.

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A relationship is a two-way bridge. The love and bond between couples intensify when they practice the love languages they relate to. Unfortunately, what happens over time is that the relationship gets monotonous. The pair drift apart due to routine and other circumstances. However, staying rooted and holding on to that magic that once connected the two of them is entirely possible! 

The first rule is to be respectful. There is no relationship, not just between a man and a woman, but between anyone, including friends and family, where there is no argument or disagreement. It is, therefore, a two-way effort between the couple to honor and implement the act of kindness and understanding towards each other. Respecting each other, using words of kindness, and being there for each other in all circumstances are very significant. 

Secondly, prioritizing spending time together, eating meals together, openly having conversations apart from the home routine, and taking time to compliment, observe, and appreciate each other go a long way in keeping the bond strong and healthy. 

Intimacy is the following significant factor in any relationship. Keeping intimacy and romance alive in the marriage is something many couples miss prioritizing. Love grows with harmony, peace, and some good time together. The biological needs and the emotional connection met through being intimate and loving with each other are unmatched. 

Couples who go through marriage issues reveal how intimacy has been a primary concern between the two. Intimacy does not have to be about sex. It starts way before hitting the bed. It is in how they treat each other, respect each other, value each other, and help each other in the smallest of daily activities. It is not about red roses and glimmering jewelry but about keeping the light burning and the vibe alive. 

Lastly, it is also in how they handle difficult situations. Most couples forget that it is a problem vs. them, and they don’t have to be bitter about a situation between themselves. Instead, keeping calm and logically finding a solution together can be healing and highly healthy for the relationship. This enhances the beauty of the effort the two individuals put in and helps them raise children who understand and know the importance of patience and love between other human beings. Children learn how to love from their homes. Therefore, each parent’s responsible for showing their children what it is to be a family unit and kind, empathetic humans. 

Together we are strong. This mantra can save a lot of sinking relationships. 

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Aakanksha Dinah, a passionate writer, orator, communicator focused on establishing a Training institution centered on creativity and innovation. Aakanksha is a true believer in loving the work we do and strongly believes in smart-work, the reason why creativity works better for her. Aakanksha is enormously focused on making a career in professional writing and publishing. She loves writing poems, self-help articles, and essays. An enthusiast when it comes to learning languages and in short, Aakanksha is a wanderer, an explorer, a mom, a dog-mom, a poet, a cook, a writer, and an influencer.

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You are your creator – in terms of happiness, karma, joy, emotions, actions, and lifestyle – you create your existence. It is absolutely in your control how you live your life. Holding others around you responsible for making you happy or sad may seem convenient. Still, allowing yourself to succumb to the energy around you is undoubtedly within you.

There are energy shifts around you that translate the aura and vibe you experience and give out. Your aura must be an amalgam of how wonderfully and beautifully you are created. It must reflect all the goodness you are filled with. It must resonate with the warmth and love you have within you to give to this world. There is so much power in positive affirmations and manifesting in the right spirit.

You must always consciously try to connect with the positivity within you and carry forward the glow and charm you are born with. Yes, it is easy to get carried away and feel heavy within, giving into mood swings and grumpy emotions. However, it is wiser to get over and smile despite the circumstance to see how blessed you are and continue doing what must be done next.

There is so much strength in believing in yourself and maintaining a lifestyle with some self-talk and analysis. There is wisdom in knowing yourself and honouring yourself. There is a lot of positivity in being yourself and manifesting all good things in your life and others. You must know what to speak and when. You must learn and unlearn habits and traditions that grow or hinder your progress. You must carry forward all the good morals and values instilled in you and try to break generational curses that no longer have a place in your life and your kids’. Manifest and affirm that you are blessed.

Believe that you are successful. Trust that you are beautiful inside and out! What you believe inside you will get you places – it will make you see the vastness of this world and yourself! Therefore, manifest in learning the highest version of yourself, invest in maturing with the world, and prosper, for you are born to do so!

Aakanksha Dinah, a passionate writer, orator, communicator focused on establishing a Training institution centered on creativity and innovation. Aakanksha is a true believer in loving the work we do and strongly believes in smart-work, the reason why creativity works better for her. Aakanksha is enormously focused on making a career in professional writing and publishing. She loves writing poems, self-help articles, and essays. An enthusiast when it comes to learning languages and in short, Aakanksha is a wanderer, an explorer, a mom, a dog-mom, a poet, a cook, a writer, and an influencer.

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